At times, we find ourselves in petty arguments about issues and situations that are minor or don’t deserve attention. A situation may have initially seemed like it was worth the fight and then turned into a fiasco. Can you relate? Often times, we feel the need to be right or prove someone else wrong, especially when we are searching for validation and approval. Looking back on the many times I went to battle over an empty roll of toilet paper or a missing stapler, I can say it often wasn’t worth the time or effort I put in.
Before addressing your concerns, there are a couple of questions you must ask yourself. First, “Does this issue affect my morale compass?” And second, “Does it violate my idiosyncrasies?” If you’ve answered yes to the latter–LET IT GO! Do not get so full of yourself that you try to let your personal preferences control a situation. Set your idiosyncrasies aside and live on! But, if you have prayed about it and it is still bothering you then addressing the situation is probably the best option.
I find the best way to handle addressable situations is by first talking it out with God. I ask Him to help me acknowledge my fault, develop an open heart and to give me the right words to say to bring about a resolution. This is important to do because you want to be fair and humble, and some issues can be difficult to discuss especially if you’ve been offended. Let God guide your conversation.
In the end, if you’ve addressed a situation with a genuine heart and the person does not receive it, then you’ve done your part. Continue to pray for the person and wish them the best.
Good scriptures to highlight:
2 Timothy 2:24: And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.
Romans 12:18: If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.